I thought becoming a mother would be the happiest season of my life. Instead, it exposed the one thing I couldn’t ignore anymore: I didn’t have financial control.
Nothing could have prepared me for the roller coaster ride that was my pregnancy. I felt unprepared, ill-equipped, and overwhelmed with all of the things I wanted to do and needed to do.
At the top of that list was the question of do I have enough money to make sure I can maintain the freedom I had at the time to choose to stay home with my child and make money how and when I wanted and needed to? The answer to this in short was no. I had not built the systems in place to satisfy the craving I had for stability and structure for my family. The impending due date did nothing to alleviate my stress of feeling I was not ready but nevertheless I moved forward. I created a plan.
I was going to trade my butt off and trade my way into financial freedom as quickly as possible. You know what they say, You create a plan, and God laughs. Well I was no exception to this. I was hospitalized for a month in my third trimester, had to be induced 6 weeks early to keep myself and my baby healthy, and my family structure as I knew it was falling apart. I in no way was prepared mentally and emotionally ready to handle this. However, as a woman and a new mother, I found the strength to pick myself up and carry on. I needed a new plan.
I decided to start over, from the bottom. I decided to take trading seriously and consistently. I utilized my support system, created a routine, honed in on my trading plan, created a goal, and set the intention every day to work towards that.
If you’re a woman who wants both — freedom and family — this is for you.
I can say I have never been more proud of myself than I am as I sit and write this at 3 in the morning beaming at my screen. I have created the system, I am breaking the generational cycle of women in my family being codependent and financially challenged. I am setting an example for my child. But most importantly, I am finally aligned with my purpose and passion in life.
I want to help every single woman who believes she have have both. The freedom and the family. To many times I’ve seen women in positions where they had to choose. Career or baby? Love or money? I don’t subscribe to those limitations and I want to help provide an alternative way to thinking about this. There is a way to make money from anywhere in the world (with good WiFi of course) while being present with your children and still feeling like your cup is full and running over.
I personally believe that no matter what your romantic situation is, a woman who gives up her financial autonomy has put herself in a compromising position. Because I respect free will and choice and expect it in return, I never want to be dependent financially on another person. Of course that is a personal belief supported by not only lived experience but statistics. At the end of the day, mixing emotions and finances is risky business.
As stated earlier, I want every woman who wants it all and believes she deserves it to have it all. I am one of those women and I have found a system, a rinse and repeat cycle, that I believe with willingness, consistency, and determination can get that same woman exactly where she wants to be.
As I wrap up this monologue, I look over at my son’s sleeping face and feel immense gratitude for this skillset I have. For it has afforded me the ability to avoid the pits of the 9-5 life that I do not wish to return to. I can spend as much time as I want with my child and we all know how unforgiving time is. I choose to be present. I chose to invest in myself in the past so that I could be doing exactly what I’m doing in the present.